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Dear Sarah, I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 4 months and the sex is really great. The other night he mentioned that he wanted me to penetrate him with a strap-on. I’ve never been asked to do this before and I’m a bit worried that he might be secretly gay. Should I confront him about this? Donna, West Lothian Dear Donna, Glad to hear things are going well with your new man. It is not unusual for straight men to enjoy anal penetration either with just a finger to rub their P-Spot or with a full-blown realistic strap-on. It has nothing to do with being sexually attracted to men but rather is to do with the orgasmic sensation created when their prostate is massaged. If you feel uncomfortable with penetrating your boyfriend, tell him. Communication is the best way to ensure satisfying sex. However, if you would like to try out strap-ons, can I recommend the Beginner's Strap-on? This curved jelly dildo only measures 5 inches so is the perfect toy to start with. It also comes with 3 interchangeable O-rings which means you can attach different dildos. Sarah Dear Sarah, My husband and I have recently got into swinging and have both taken to it like ducks to water! We are hosting a key-swapping party at ours in a few weeks and wanted to get some items to make it a particularly memorable occasion. Any suggestions? Angela, Buckinghamshire Dear Angela, The most important thing about a swingers' party is to make sure everyone feels comfortable and relaxed. Although alcohol is a good social lubricant, an ice-breaker is even better! 7 Deadly Sins is a board game for up to 21 players and features 'Sin' cards with instructions for people to act out. Another great idea is giving people party bags at the beginning of the evening. You could put in a small bottle of flavoured lube (ID Juicy Lube 10 Flavours) and a cock ring (The Screaming O Luxury Pack). And most of all, don’t forget good food and good music! Best of luck with it all and let me know how well it goes. Sarah Dear Sarah, My best friend is getting married this summer and I want to get her a really special gift for the hen night. We are going to spend the weekend in Paris at 5* hotel so I’d like to get her a luxury vibrator. Are there any products you can recommend? Pearl, Hampstead Heath Dear Pearl, LELO is a luxury sex toy brand from Sweden which is causing waves (of pleasure) over here. They make well-crafted and beautifully designed vibrators which are discreet and fully rechargeable. If she has never used a vibrator before, the Nea would make an excellent gift. This gorgeous clitoral vibe features a floral design and comes with a charger and a satin carry pouch. If the bride-to-be is experienced in the world of sex toys then treat her to the Elise. This curved vibrator will deliver G-Spot, clitoral or full body stimulation and comes with powerful yet silent dual motors. Do let us know how the big day goes and how well your present goes down! Sarah Dear Sarah, I’d really like to have anal sex with my boyfriend. But when we tried it the other night, I found it uncomfortable. Have you got any tips about how we can enjoy it more? Suzi, South Shields Dear Suzi, Anal sex can be a lot of fun and very enjoyable for both partners. However, it is difficult to enjoy it without a little help from sex aids. Firstly, you will need to get a good quality lube – something like Lube-In Lubrication is perfect as it is specially designed for anal sex. It will dissolve in your body so won’t leave a nasty residue. It is also a good idea to invest in some poppers. Rush Herbal Poppers will help you to relax and really enjoy the sensation of anal penetration. Good luck and enjoy yourselves! Sarah Dear Sarah, I’ve recently started the menopause and am finding sex less pleasurable. I’ve been getting some vaginal dryness and am finding it difficult to orgasm. I don’t want to take any medication, so is there anything else you can recommend? Diane, Bermondsey Dear Diane, The menopause is a time when many women experience physical changes especially with their sexual organs. Vaginal dryness and a diminished interest in sex are commonplace. Vigorelle is a cream that not only combats vaginal dryness but also, when applied to the clitoris, enhances sensitivity. It is a safe, natural plant-based topical cream that increases sensation by helping the blood flow around your vagina. Let us know if this product helps you. Sarah Dear Sarah, I’ve got engaged to my boyfriend and am over the moon. The only problem is that I live in London and he lives in New York! We visit each other every few weeks and I am currently trying to get a visa to go and live there. Although we have regular telephone sex, I desperately miss the real thing! Any suggestions? Catherine, London Dear Catherine, Congratulations on your engagement – you must be so excited about starting your new life Stateside! Long distance relationships are tough but you seem to be handling it the right way – especially with the frequent telephone sex. Although you can’t do the real thing when you’ve got the Atlantic Ocean between you, I can recommend the next best thing: Clone-a-Willy and Clone-a-Pussy kits! These easy-to-use kits will produce exact rubber copies of your genitalia and are sure to help you through those lonely nights without him; especially as yours comes with a powerful bullet vibrator. And I’m positive your fiancé will be delighted to receive a rubber replica of your pussy in the post. Keep us posted and don’t forget to send a wedding invite! Sarah Dear Sarah, I’ve got a lot of broken capillaries on my face which I have to cover with layers of foundation and concealer. I’m naturally very fair so they show up very clearly. I can’t afford to have thread vein surgery at the moment and really want to stop wearing such heavy make-up. Do you have any creams or treatments that would help me? Siobhan, Belfast Dear Siobhan, Broken capillaries are quite common among people with very fair colouring; they are also made worse by the sun and drinking – just to warn you! Make-up will hide the problem temporarily but if you want a more long-term solution, try Capillary Clear by Skin Doctors. By applying this cream twice a day on pre-moistened skin, in approximately six weeks you will notice a definite reduction in the appearance of broken capillaries. It works by helping to maintain the elasticity of your blood vessels as well as dispersing the dried blood in the surrounding capillaries. Get back in touch after a couple of months and let us know your progress. Sarah Dear Sarah, I’ve just started seeing this new fella and he’s well into bondage and being dominated. I’ve never done this sort of thing before and need some advice about where to start! Jenny, Liverpool Dear Jenny, Domination can be a lot of fun for both partners and ranges from being tied up and spanked to full-on sadomasochistic punishment. I would recommend you start off slowly and invest in some handcuffs or bondage tape. This tape is great as you can wrap it around your body to get a sexy dominatrix look. If you are comfortable with it, you could use a paddle or riding crop to spank him. The Vibrating Whip Tickler is a brilliant toy as you can also use it as a vibrator – try alternating between the pain of spanking and the pleasure of vibrations. I hope this helps you on your bondage odyssey and let us know how you get on! Sarah Dear Sarah, I’m really don’t like the way my nipples look. I have quite large breasts (E cup) and I feel that my nipples are just too small for them. I have been considering surgery for a while but am unsure whether to take such a drastic measure. Is there anything I can do to increase their size that is non-surgical? Diana, London Dear Diana, Thank you for your email. Many women are unhappy with their nipple size so you are really not alone in feeling this way. Although surgery is an option it would be costly and potentially quite painful. The Body Images Nipple Enlargement System using a gentle vacuum system to help increase the size of your nipples. Simply place the cylinder over your nipple and squeeze the hand pump to create a vacuum. Repeat this procedure for about 10 minutes a few times a week and a in a couple of months you will see a definite increase in the size of your nipples. Let us know how you get on! Sarah Dear Sarah, I gave birth to my gorgeous baby son a couple of months ago. My boyfriend and I have just started having sex again but I’ve noticed that I’m not quite as tight as I used to be. We’ve tried loads of different positions but I’m just not enjoying the feeling of being penetrated as much as I used to. I’ve also tried pelvic floor exercises but they’ve not really made much of a difference. Help! Sophia, Richmond Dear Sophia, Firstly, congratulations! You and your boyfriend must be thrilled with the new addition to the family. As resilient as the cervix is, it can become wider after childbirth – this is a common problem that many new mums have to deal with. Continuing with the pelvic floor exercises is a good idea but by using the Kegelmaster as well will really help tighten the vagina back up. Through regular use you will notice a definite improvement in the tightness of your cervix. In turn this will result in an enhanced sexual experience, more intense pleasure and better orgasms. Best of luck with your new baby and keep us posted on your progress! Sarah Dear Sarah, I’ve been with my husband for almost 6 years and even though I still love him – the sex is getting a bit boring! He is not really into trying new things so really I just wanted something a little exciting but not too daring to spice up the bedroom. Any ideas? Bonnie, Eastbourne Dear Bonnie, Many couples find that once they’ve been together for a while, the sex does become less and less exciting. It sounds though you may be stuck in a rut and if your man isn’t up for trying new things perhaps he doesn’t realise you’re getting bored. Try speaking to him about how you feel, communication is the best way to getting and giving great sex. Perhaps start off by introducing flavoured lubes into the bedroom. These aren’t too daring but will definitely add a bit of fun to proceedings. Giving him a blowjob with a mouthful of flavoured lube will enhance the pleasure for him and give you a tastier experience. ID Juicy Lube sells a taster pack of 10 different flavours including Bubblegum, Mint, Vanilla and Strawberry Kiwi – so I’m sure you’ll find a favourite flavour! Keep us updated on how it goes. Sarah Dear Sarah, When I go out clubbing I never get approached by women. I’m a bit shy so would prefer them to come to me. I’ve read about pheromone sprays which attract the opposite sex. Do these really work? David, Great Yarmouth Dear David, Sorry to hear you are having trouble attracting the ladies. Although you may feel shy, it really does help to take the bull by the horns and approach women first. Don’t be afraid of rejection – it happens to the best of us! However, to give yourself a little more confidence try Man-2-Woman. This spray stimulates the glands that produce pheromones which send a powerful signal of attraction to the opposite. Keep us posted on how you get on! Sarah Dear Sarah, I’ve been thinking about getting a vibrator for some time now but there’s so much choice! As a vibrator virgin, what do you suggest? Gemma, Chesterfield Dear Gemma, Welcome to the wonderful world of vibrators. I can promise that once you’ve bought you first sex toy, you’ll never look back! I would recommend a clitoral stimulator for your first toy. This is a small bullet or lipstick shaped vibrator which you press against your clitoris to orgasm. The Rabbit Shape Finger Speed is an easy-to-use waterproof vibe which fits on your finger. Or if your budget is a little bigger, LELO’s gorgeous-looking Nea vibrator is rechargeable and features a multi-speed function. Let me know how it goes with your first toy! Sarah Dear Sarah, My husband and I have been married for three months and the sex is really fantastic, except for the fact that I don't like giving him blowjobs because of the taste of his "spunk". This isn't really a cause for concern but I don't want him to feel like it's an obligation for me, because I generally like oral sex and it's a huge turn on for both of us. Is there something we can do to make his semen taste better without it taking away the spontaneity of our sex life? Diana, London Dear Diana, Thank you very much for your question. This is a very common problem for many couples and there are many things you can do to enhance the flavour of your "love juices". Diet plays a big part in the flavour of spunk especially if it's a bit sour. Eating more fruits and cutting down on things such as cigarettes and alcohol and drinking more fruit juices can help. You can also use specialised food supplements such as Sweet Release Male which contains various ingredients that can enhance semen flavour and has various other benefits. Sex should be fun for both of you and being comfortable with how your partner "tastes" plays a big part in that. Have a talk with your husband and if you guys are as comfortable with each other as I think you are, he'll understand. Good luck, and keep us updated! Sarah Dear Sarah, My boyfriend and I have been together for about 9 months now and our sex is ok, but the problem is he cums really quickly. I just wanna save the moment sometime if you get what I mean? What can I do to stop him coming so fast? Alice, London Dear Alice, Thank you for your email. Firstly do not fear as this is a common problem amongst men of all ages. Secondly take it as a compliment that you turn your boyfriend on that much! ;) There are a number of ways that you can prevent him ejaculating so fast. Trying different positions is a good one, every time he thinks he is about to ejaculate, stop and try a different position. A fantastic way of preventing this is to use CoolMann Delay Gel which is a gel that is applied to the head of the penis. This gel gently numbs the penis enough so he can still feel what’s going on but doesn’t ejaculate as quickly given you more time to enjoy the moment. A good thing about CoolMann Delay Gel is that a little goes a long way so it should last you and your boyfriend quite a while. Good luck Alice and don’t forget to send us your feedback on how you and your boyfriend get on! Sarah Dear Sarah, My wife wants to buy her first vibrator but I don’t want her to as I don’t want her to pay less attention to me. If she buys one is this likely to happen? James, Scarborough Dear Sarah, Thank you for your email. I think a common misconception of vibrators and sex toys are that they are for women to only use on their own, This is not the case; they can in fact be the secret tool to an even better sex life. A great way of introducing sex toys to your sex life without you feeling uncomfortable is to get a vibrator that you can use on your wife. This includes you in the act and you may even prefer this as its less work for you! ;) A vibrator like the Rabbit Shape Finger Speed is ideal for couples as it can be worn on your finger and used to stimulate your partner’s clitoris. Another trick is to buy cock rings that you can wear during intercourse. Many cock rings, like the O Wow is worn tight around the penis giving you stronger erections and features soft vibrating pleasure bumps to stimulate her clitoris. Some might say it’s a win-win situation! Keep an open mind and find a vibrator that suits you both. Good luck James and don’t forget to send us your feedback on how you and your wife get on! Sarah Dear Sarah, I am very conscious about the size of my penis. I am currently single and think part of the reason that I am holding back is because my confidence us very low. I am about 4 inches erect and feel that this isn’t enough to impress a woman. What can I do to make it bigger? Clint, Durham Dear Clint, Thank you for your email. Many men and women have insecurities with their bodies. Clint, size isn’t everything to a woman however there are ways that you can increase the size of your penis. A popular treatment is the VigRX Penis Enlargement Capsules. These are 100% herbal which you take twice a day, once in the morning and once in the evening. As they are herbal they do work differently for different men, however 87% of men achieve their desired results. VigRX is one of the most successful forms of penis enlargement and the results can vary from 1-3 increases increase in size. Remember the changes aren’t going to happen over night, so stay patient and keep taking the capsules consistently as men who forget to take them when they are suppose to often get delayed results. Good luck Clint and don’t forget to send us your feedback on how you get on! Sarah Dear Sarah, I want to buy a rabbit vibrator but with so many out there I am not sure which would be best for me. I just want something simple to use. Can you help? Jen, Cornwall Dear Jen, Thank you for your email. Buying a rabbit vibrator can be tricky as you are right there are so many different styles out there with so many different functions. If you want something simple yet effective then I would suggest that you buy a classic rabbit vibrator such as the Romping Rabbit. This is one of the original rabbits, and has on/off buttons for vibrations and shaft rotation making this one of the easiest rabbits to use. Good luck Jen and don’t forget to send us your feedback on how you get on! Sarah Dear Sarah, I find it difficult to keep my erection whilst having sex and don’t know what I can do to keep it. What do you suggest? Doug, Manchester Dear Doug, Thank you for your email. Believe it or not this is quite common amongst men of all ages. If you want something to give you a little help then there are herbal supplements that you can take to help you improve and maintain an erection. I would recommend Viapro. This is an herbal formula that enhances sexual performance, increases stamina and helps maintain a better erection for longer.? It gets to work within 30 minutes and can stay in your system up to 24 hours. Good luck Doug and don’t forget to send us your feedback on how you get on! Sarah If you want to write into Sarah SexPert please email: enquiry@SexyFun.co.uk |
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